What you need to know

It’s very reasonable to feel sad, depressed, anxious and angry when someone you love dies. This might include a family member, close friend, teacher or a pet. Regardless of who the person was, you'll need some time and space to come to terms with their death and your feelings. Your feelings may vary massively from anger, deep sadness, shock, sometimes guilt and grief. These are all normal feelings in the grieving process.

It's important to talk to your friends/family/support network about how you're feeling so they know and can help. Bereavement can also impact on you physically. You may notice you have difficulty sleeping, a loss of appetite or feeling drained.

  • Take one day at a time
  • Try to keep busy and carry on with daily activities, the distraction can help
  • Talk with your family and friends for support
  • Allow yourself to feel how you do, don't try and put a brave face on or cover it up
  • Try to keep your sleep routine and eat normally for you
  • Tell school, it may help them to understand if you show any behaviour changes
  • When you feel able, write down some memories of the person and reflect on time with them
  • Consider doing a memory box, made up of memories/photographs/special objects
  • Consider whether you think it's helpful for you to attend the funeral or not
  • Discuss with your school nurse if you need more help and support

For more information on bereavement please see the resources below: